The upcoming #SpringEquinox gets me thinking about how we go about our own growth. I have found two main ways to approach growth:
1. The "what would be better" type growth... and
2. The "what could that taste like" type growth.
The first type propells us to see where we have mucked up in the past, what our present is lacking to bring us more happiness, and where we can release or shift our efforts to grow in the direction of our hopes and dreams. The New Year's resolutions / Assembly line type of growth: the "I want to lose weight/gain muscle, so I need to..." or the "I want to make x amount of money this year, so I need to... " goals. .
Identify what I'm lacking for my happiness, what I am not doing, and what I need to do to be happier. The problem here is that it doesn't acknowledge the transformative seeds in our experiences and relationships waiting to be planted in us every day. It looks beyond those to some inmaterial future where we will finally "be happier." By looking backwards and around us and turn judgement on what's missing, we relinquish our energy to old patterning and give it the keys to our future... even missing the real lessons that will feed our growth.
The second type turns our lives into our garden. We can thoughtfully dream of what fruits we would like to harvest in the future, and staying in our #present, work to tend the seeds and sapplings of our dream and upkeep the rich environment that feeds our garden. We shift our focus to the care for the now. We feel when the Earth of a relationship is running dry and needs to be emotionally hydrated. We experience growth when we simply focus on caring for ourself and those in our gardens. We notice that some seeds thrive and blossom... and others are simply not meant to grow here.
So for this Equinox, I invite you to turn your vision board face down, and dream of the sweetness of fruits grown under your caring eyes and in the fertile potential that already exists all around you. Put down the pen you picked up to journal about what you would like to release this upcoming cycle... Those things you want to throw away now could make wonderful compost later 🌱