''Good friends, good books, and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life''. Mark Twain
I have just finished reading one of the best self-help books by Mark Manson ''The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck''. The book has made a very big impression on me that I thought it's worth sharing it with you. In short, from trying to be positive I became a realist.
I was experiencing an internal conflict while reading a book. At the beginning, I thought that my behaviour, thoughts, beliefs, goals and values were totally right. And I never questioned them until the moment I read this book. It helped me to reevaluate my current life, understand better what I do wrong and how I can improve that.
Key takeaways from the book:
=>''The desire for more positive experience is itself negative experience''. At first, it sounded a little counterintuitive, but then it made sense to me. Let's say you want to have an amazing physique. When you fantasize about it, you get happy but its a very short-term happiness. But then comes reality. You want to be in fit but right now you are not. The very thought about an amazing physique can make you happy and at the same so much miserable. Or the more you want to earn a lot of money, the more unhappy you feel. According to the author, you have to accept your negative experience. Doing so is positive experience itself, ''Yes, I don't have amazing body right now or I don't have a lot of money but I am working on it''.
=>''Happiness requires struggle''. And you are the only one who chooses and manages its own struggles. If you want to start your own business, you can't become one unless you are willing to take risk, accept failures or spend endless hours on it. If you are ready to accept this negative experience rather than avoid it, you will feel much more happier.
There are so many other lessons you can learn from this book. One single post cannot express all the deep meaning of the book. But after reading it, you will be no longer the same person.
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