We've all heard the comments from our family, friends, and co-workers:
▪️”Just have a bite! It won’t kill you!”
▪️”What’s one meal? Treat yourself!”
▪️”It’s Friday, live a little!”
▪️”You have so much willpower, I could never do that!”
I have heard comments like these a thousand times over the years. People commenting on how I’ll eat a couple fries or a few bites of a dessert. Which is still kind of surprising. Not because I don’t think it’s a normal reaction, but because for the first 30 years of my life, I was not about that life.
I was all-or-nothing, deprive-then-binge, strict food rules, hardcore or face first.
BUT here's the thing... Moving from someone who was consumed with the all-or-nothing mindset to someone who is less obsessed with food, enjoys it and rarely overdoes it is possible.
But it's sure as hell not easy.
And it doesn’t just take a few weeks or a month. And it doesn’t happen automatically. You don’t just get to sign up for some random online coach's 30-day challenge and expect instant results.
This shit takes work. REAL work. If it were easy, 80% of the population wouldn't be overweight and the diet industry wouldn't be a multi-billion dollar business.
So, when people make those comments to me, here’s what they don't get:
▪️I know it won't kill me, but I honestly could take it or leave it. Saying no isn't hard.
▪️I don’t need to “treat myself” because I eat exactly what I want in the quantity I want it. Every single day. I don't need a "treat" or a "reward."
▪️I don’t need to indulge on holidays because those foods are available to me tomorrow, too.
▪️I don’t have any more willpower than anyone else, I have just been practicing this stuff for longer, and because of that, it doesn't require grit anymore. I'm coasting on autopilot.
I'm also so grateful I just had the courage to try a new way. It feels really good to have conquered that. But what feels even better is that I know it’s possible for you, too.