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No one asks to be abused, but itโ€™s important for people to recognize abuse for what it is and not make excuses for the abuser. Itโ€™s rarely a one only occasion and it usually does get worse. It certainly did in my case and I almost lost my life. Yes, itโ€™s heartbreaking, but you must put yourself first and do whatโ€™s best for you. #metoo #ibelieveinyou #narcissisticabuserecovery #psycopath #youarenotalone #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticviolencesurvivor #abuseisnotlove #abusiverelationship #narcissist #sociopath #psychopath #narcissism

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Those who have experienced abusive/traumatic upbringings can understand this ... Never being shown true love as a child results in all matter of issues as an adult โ€“ some issues include codependency, attracting toxic friendships and abusive partners, lacking self-respect, self-sacrificing, poor boundaries ... the list goes on. For those of you who were never 'fed love on a silver spoon' how do you move past the inner wounds? What practices have you turned to? If you need help, please see the link in our description โ€“ we have many free resources on our website for abuse sufferers (as recovering survivors of abuse ourselves.) #lonerwolf #lunaandsol #innerwork #traumabonding #abuseisnotlove #codependency #codependentnomore #toxicfamily

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Who can relate?

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For professional counselling in your narcissistic abuse recovery please inbox me or email me at nova @brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au Link in bio Counselling available worldwide via Skype or telephone. Nova ๐ŸŒป ********************************************* * * * #narcs #npd #narcopath #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #counselling #onlinecounseling #emotionalvampires #immature #adultchildrenofnarcissists #toxiclove #psychologicalabuse #tempertantrum #noconscience #nocontact #liarliar #cheaters #toxicrelationship #abuseamnesia #abuseisnotlove #wordscutlikeknives #divorced #neveragain #movingon #novasnarcissistabuserecovery

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It is so easy to lose yourself, lose your self worth, lose who you are being painted into someone you are not. When someone is constantly putting you down. As an individual, as a woman, & as a mother. Those who mistreat you. Wether it be verbally, physically or both. This is a reflection on them not YOU. Itโ€™s never too late to rebuild yourself when someone tries to break you down over and over year after year. You can be strong enough to say itโ€™s enough. Pick yourself up and choose to be a better you, a happier, a healthier you. Nothing is impossible. You can do whatever you set your mind to doโค๏ธ #onedayatatime #mommytotwo #girls #knowyourworth #womansworth #selfgrowth #keepmovingforward #dontlookback #bethebestversionofyou #onlywayisup #abuseisnotok #abuseisnotlove #loveyourself #happiness #love #loveyourself #dobetter #bebetter #womenempowerment #tiffanyleabeauty

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Iโ€™ve heard so many people say โ€œI have to stay because of the kid(s)โ€. The truth is, the kids should be the reason you leave and never look back. The kids need a healthy parent, even if that means a โ€œbroken homeโ€. #enddomesticviolence #enddomesticabuse #doitforthekids #childrenneedlove #mentalhealth #suicideawareness #lovebomb #traumabond #speakoutagainstdomesticviolence #abuseisnotlove

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Quite smugness, self absorbtion, lack of empathy, passive aggressive, highly sensitive, the โ€˜misunderstoodโ€™ special person, impersonal and difficult relationships. If any one has this in your relationship you need to get help, and you need to get help now. You wont feel the effects because the abusive is insidious, like a software program, but its still abuse. Find help and make changes immediately, you owe it to yourself and your children. #narcissticabuse #narcisstic #narcisst #narcissticabuserecovery #narcissticsurvivor #narcissticabusesurvivor #narcissticawareness #narcissticrecovery #narcissticfather #narcissticfamilyabuse #narcissticsupply #covert #covertnarcissit #covertnarcissiticabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #emotionalabuseisstillabuse #abusecycle #emotionalabuseawareness #abuseisnotlove #abusers #hiddenabuse #narcissistabuse #damagedchildren #recoveryispossible #recoveryworks #abuserecovery #recoverylife #chooselife #chooselifenotdeath #chooselifeliveitdoit

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Top 3 tips to help get through trauma . Trauma affects you in ways you never thought and you are not alone . Trauma of all kinds

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new vid โ€œthatโ€™s FUCKED up!โ€ go watch! #donttouchmebitch #abuseisnotlove #emotionalabuseisstillabuse #whatsthewordsis #fuckemup #wifebeater #husbandbeater #thatsfuckedup #workin #vloggingwhileatwork excuse the background noise i was literally at work while vlogging ๐Ÿ˜‚

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Thanks guys!!!! 900+ followers. Iโ€™ve gone through so much healing since starting this account. I donโ€™t focus on the narcissistic abuse as much every day anymore. But itโ€™s still a passion of mine to speak out about this stuff. My nex is still problematic but i am showing up in the situation differently and I feel like I am keeping my vibes high so I am more immune to the toxic garbage. But I still use low-contact and grey rock and boundaries and stay very aware of every move. Tip toeing through a mine field. I made it out. Single mom of three with two douchebag exes and a whole pile of issues to deal with in myself and my children. I was a stay at home mom when I left my ex husband 10 years ago. I was 8 months post partum when I left my ex boyfriend 4 months ago. If I can do it, anyone can. Super bright things are ahead for me and I canโ€™t wait to share them all with you to give you hope. Not false sugarcoated hope but real gritty hope. Because life isnโ€™t a fairy tale. But love joy and peace are real and they ARE FOR YOU. โœŒ๏ธโœŒ๏ธโœŒ๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž #abusesurvivor #abuserecovery #abuseawareness #abuseisabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #psychologicalabuse #mentalabuse #healingfromabuse #domesticabuse #emotionalabuseisstillabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissistabuse #hiddenabuse #financialabuse #abuseisnotlove #domesticabuseawareness #emotionalabusesurvivor #narcabuse #domesticabusesurvivor #gaslighting #emotionalmanipulation #domesticviolenceawareness #intimatepartnerviolence #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #manipulative #covertnarcissist

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I lived this. Actually Iโ€™ve lived through it a few times, the worst with my most recent ex who had been my best friend for years. I was sure I knew who he was, and then he became someone I didnโ€™t even recognize. If you are in a relationship like this, walk away. You deserve more. You are worth more. How do I know? Because every human being deserves better than this. #youareworthit #narcissists #mentalhealth #loveyourself #worthyoflove #controlisnotlove #abuseisnotlove #gethelp

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On Wednesday October 16th we will be hosting a benefit show for the organization Menergy! For over 30 years Philadelphia's Menergy have worked to stop harmful behavior and intimate partner violence by providing training, education, advocacy programs, and therapy. A representative will be in attendance doing a workshop on how to best support survivors of abuse and assault in our community during the show, so please be aware there may be some difficult subject matter. Thank you so much @lost.mirage for making this flyer for us! We hope to see you all there! ๐Ÿ’œ Accessibility : Wheelchair access into the building and one unisex accessible bathroom on the main floor. ๐Ÿ’œ The Rotunda and HATIWG do not tolerate racism, colorism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, bias against nonbinary and gender nonconforming people, prejudice against people with disabilities of any kind, discrimination based on religion/creed/atheism, sizeism, etc. WE DO NOT TOLERATE ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR. If you have any questions or concerns please contact us! ๐Ÿ’œ FB EVENT LINK WITH DETAILED ACCESSIBILITY, DIRECTIONS, NO TOLERANCE POLICIES, etc. IN OUR BIO! (click the linktree link ๐Ÿ˜‰) ๐Ÿ’œ #Philly #PhillyDIY #Community #CommunityCare #Accountability #BelieveSurvivors #WeBelieveSurvivors #Traumahealing #HealingFromTrauma #PhillyPunx #DIYPunks #DIYPunkScene #DoItYourself #SupportYourScene #SupportYourLocalPunkScene #PunksSupportPunks #DVAwareness #AbuseAwareness #Survivor #HealingFromAbuse #AbuseIsNotLove #HealthyRelationships #Menergy

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Forgiveness isn't easy, and a lot of people say it's how you best move on; but how do you do so when the one who hurt you doesn't even begin to grasp what they've done? When their half apology is still filled statements somehow still blaming you for the pain they caused? We all just want to be understood, but an apology from someone who hurt us deeply in the way that we need honestly may never come. I've learned a lot of hard lessons over these last few months, but this one.. this one is still in progress. But I will learn to find closure within myself, learn to forgive myself for trusting in someone unworthy, forgive myself for folding on my own boundaries, and learn to trust my own judgment again, so I can learn to trust others again. โค๏ธ . . . . . . . . . #emotionalabuse #traumabonding #apology #healing #movingon #love #hurt #justsaysorry #andactuallymeanit #closure #selflove #selflovejourney #selfloveclub #selfloveโค๏ธ #selflovefirst #healingtime #healingvibes #healingjourney #abuse #abuserecovery #abuseisnotlove #abuseawareness

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Read it again๐Ÿ’ฅ That mask though ๐Ÿ‘บ This right here! This statement really hits me in the gut! I am a #narcissistsurvivor ๐Ÿ‘Š #knowyourworth #beyou #loudandproud

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just a simple reminder for everyone. #YOUwillheal #youwillbeokay #abuseisnotlove #abuseisnotok

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Family violence is not only physical abuse, it can also be sexual, psychological, emotional, economic, spiritual, or legal abuse. All forms of family violence are illegal and unacceptable. ยฐ โบ Women are more likely than men to be victims of family violence. Women are also more likely to live in fear of an intimate partner or ex-partner and to be injured because of family violence. ยฐ โบ Children are also often caught up in family violence โ€“ both as victims themselves, and as witnesses. Witnessing family violence has the same negative effects on children as physical violence against them. ยฐ If you or someone you know is affected by family violence, click the link ๐Ÿ”— in the @SakeenahHomes bio to contact us. . . . . . #Instasupport #instawomen #women #domesticabuse #dv #domesticviolence #financialabuse #seekhelp #help #shelter #muslimah #muslimwomen #scarborough #heal #transitionalhome #toronto #mississaga #familyviolence #femaleempowerment #canadianmuslims #empoweredmuslimah #muslimwomen #canadianwomen #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #narcissist #abuseisnotlove #psychopath #toxicrelationship

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@returning_hope Seen this and thought about your Organization... Just tagging you because you never know who needs help. And although Iโ€™ve helped many get to safety you can help too๐Ÿ’œ #Survivors #Stopdomesticviolence #Standup #leave #theresawayout #800621Hope #Safehorizon #returninghope #safebag #tellsomeone #getoutsafe #leavebeforeitstoolate #abuseisnotlove #controlisnotlove #5yearsofabuse #8timesbeforeileftforgood #Domesticviolencesurvivor๐Ÿ’œ #speakup #inspire #leave #thinkaboutthekids #thinkaboutyou

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Womp there it is. What did they ever do for you? Was it maybe a fuck ton of love bombing, which was often composed of mostly material experiences, something that could of course later be measured in a dollar value and thrown in your face as their soul examples of love? In my experience, even when I expressed my inability to match such grand gestures it was initially met with understanding; until of course I did something wrong. Whatever wrong might have been no one deserves to feel like their significant other is trying to buy them to later shame them and make them feel ungreatful. Look past the monetary value of the persons actions, what you see might not be a whole lot. You're worth more than dollar signs, money comes and goes, genuine support and love is far greater in value. โค๏ธ . . . . . . . . . . . #emotionalabuse #traumabonding #apology #healing #movingon #love #hurt #justsaysorry #andactuallymeanit #closure #selflove #selflovejourney #selfloveclub #selfloveโค๏ธ #selflovefirst #healingtime #healingvibes #healingjourney #abuse #abuserecovery #abuseisnotlove #abuseawareness

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If Einstein had been born today, would he have been thought of as a great thinker? Or would he have been seen as a distracted, illiterate troublemaker? I would like to believe that he would still be thought of as a genius, but I truly believe he would not. It seems that in our attempts at providing an equal education for all, we have actually made things worse for our modern-day Einsteins. This is why as parents, we need to work hard to stop educating the creativity out our children. narcissticrecovery. #narcissticfather #narcissticfamilyabuse #narcissticsupply #covert #covertnarcissit #covertnarcissiticabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #emotionalabuseisstillabuse #abusecycle #emotionalabuseawareness #abuseisnotlove #abusers #hiddenabuse #narcissistabuse #damagedchildren #recoveryispossible #recoveryworks #abuserecovery #recoverylife #chooselife #chooselifenotdeath #chooselifeliveitdoit

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This is a hard lesson to learn! You know that feeling, that gut feeling something's up. Somethings not right. Listen to your gut! Listen to your intuition! It is there for a reason! And, if you're anything like me, you're still beating yourself up for not listening for so long! Good news you can start today!! There isn't anything you can do to change the past..unless you've got a time machine lol And really, what good is that? You wouldn't have learned a valuable lesson if you changed anything. From this moment on listen to your intuition, your gut. The minute someone shows you who they truly are and it is not what you're about, walk away! #yougotthis #youvecomesofar #listentoyourgut #trustyourself #starttoday #walkaway #ownyourlife #actionsspeaklouderthanwords

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@mrajbush blessed me with his presence at my recent book signing. Thank you so much for your support. ๐Ÿ˜˜ #mc180 #mycomplete180 #booktour

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Also the madness of being in love with someone who doesnโ€™t really exist. Being in love with the mask and lies they rope you in with and bring back to manipulate you and others. In love with a person who is different in the public eye- in social media and in person- than behind closed doors. For me it was my ex and my mother. #escapingthenarcissist #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticmother #abuseisneverok #abuseisnotlove #manipulation #control #loveyourself #youdeservebetter

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So I'm going to stray a little from my normal fitness post just for a quick moment. ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ This month, actually, this past Friday if I'm not mistaken makes 3 years since I left my abusive relationship of 7 years. The scariest thing I've ever done but I was so fortunate to have my best friend and family there to support me. Its important for me to mentioned this because I genuinely feel like if you are a survivor of domestic abuse and you feel comfortable to talk about it, because not everyone is, you should really try to bring awareness to the issue. There might be a girl who needs to hear your story. ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ I have used fitness as my outlet to cope with the emotions that came with healing and for me its important to share this because it want others to feel strong and like they are always working on becoming the best version of themselves and fitness is where I found that. ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ Next month, October is #domesticviolenceawareness Month. And I would encourage ladies to talk to others that might be suffering, reach out and open the dialogue to someone that might need to hear from another that has either experienced it or can just listen. ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ "Grow stronger and inspire others to become stronger versions of themselves" ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ’ซ #abuse #abuseisnotlove #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #narcissist #verbalabuse #sociopath #trauma #selflove #toxicpeople #mentalhealth #psychologicalabuse #toxicrelationships #survivor #sexualabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #traumabonding #domesticabusesurvivor #empath #abusiverelationship #stoptheviolence #endthestigma #normalchicktrynagetfit

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Once a week I am going to be recognizing a woman I have met as a strong woman! I intended for this to happen on Saturdays but letโ€™s face it those are busy days so Sundays I will post a story about my Strong Woman of the week. This week Iโ€™m recognizing this sweet woman Ange. She is a survivor of Childhood Sexual abuse as well as domestic abuse. I had originally planned on sharing more of her story but I realized that no one needs to know all the details of what sheโ€™s been through but they do need to know what she has to say to them if they are facing similar abusive situations. When I asked her what she would tell other women she said โ€œshe wants women to know they are not alone, and just because someone deems you unlovable or broken you can heal from anything!โ€ She found a way to heal on her own because she was a single mom of 2. She wants you to know that she is now in a loving relationship and happy, she knows the struggle having faced it too. But somewhere out there, there is a person for you too. She has overcome 2 abusive relationships and childhood sexual abuse at the age of 12, that is when it started by a family friend she has no contact with him and she has forgiven him but she will never allow him to be close enough to hurt her again. She loves to cook and food, all food! I am so blessed to know her and appreciate her sharing her story with my followers! The bottom line is abuse is never okay and as hard as it can be to speak up or break the cycle it is essential to do it because you matter and are worth more! Sometimes finding a way to forgive and have closure is hard but it is what each survivor needs to do. No matter your past abuse is not normal and to hold all of it in causes pain and more trauma so try your best to bless and release so you can grow into who you are meant to be. Thanks again Ange for sharing and being willing to let your story help others! I think the more we share our stories then the more women we can help! #shareyourstory #survivor #growintoyourself #liveyourbestlife #seekhelpnow #takecareofyourself #abuseisnotlove #abuseisneverok #breakthecycle

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Abuse, whether physical, mental or emotions is NOT OKAY. There are no EXCUSES. #saynotoabuse #thereispowerinthewordno #poetry #abuseisnotlove #abusehasnogender #emotionalabuseisstillabuse #writersofinstagram

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๐Ÿฒ Don't miss Women's Center & Shelter of Greater Pittsburgh Benefit Dinner at #MallorcaRestaurant coming this Tuesday!! Enjoy a five-course dinner including ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—น๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ house #wine and #sangria with your choice of an appetizer, entrรฉe, and dessert from ๐—ฎ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜… ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐˜…๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜‚ โ€“ all served with soup, salad, mixed vegetables, Spanish rice, and fresh made potato crisps! ๐—ฃ๐—จ๐—ฅ๐—–๐—›๐—”๐—ฆ๐—˜ ๐—ฌ๐—ข๐—จ๐—ฅ ๐—ง๐—œ๐—–๐—ž๐—˜๐—ง๐—ฆ ๐—ข๐—ก๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—ก๐—˜ AT bit.ly/MallorcaDinner ๐—ก๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ช๐—–&๐—ฆโ€™ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐˜‚๐—น๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป! #southside #wcsshelter #wcspittsburgh #womensshelter #Pittsburgh #enddv #enddvnow #loveshouldnthurt #abusiverelationship #abuseisnotlove #ipv #intimatepartnerviolence #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #empoweringwomen #womensempowerment #empowerment #benefitdinner #pghfoodie #lovepgh

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So my story has been featured in this weeks Take a Break magazine. So happy to be able to raise awareness about this subject and to let people know that there is help available and it does get better ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’• #selfloveafterabuse #narcissistabuse #domesticabuse #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #traumabonding #raisingawareness #narcissistabuserecovery #abuserecoverycoach #rapesurvivor

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25% of the sales of my book go to DV charities. So far we have raised ยฃ84 which is amazing! . . My next book will be the same so hopefully we will continue to raise money to help ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

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This is so important! #abuseisnotlove #stopitwhereitstarts

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Reposted from @warif_ng - In Nigeria, 1 in 4 girls before the age of 18 have had at least one sexual violence encounter. . Many survivors at the WARIF Centre have shared the fact that their first ever sexual assault encounter, happened when they were children. Rape is not only an encounter that happens to women in dark alleyways by strangers; more often, the survivor is a minor and the perpetrator is someone known to her. How old were you, when you had your first sexual violence encounter? #EndsexualViolence #endsexualassault #stoprape #endrape #endrapeculture #metoo #timesup #notoabuse #notolerance #nomorerape

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My son is my ONLY priority. Don't get it twisted. IDGAF who you are or what you THINK you can get away with me. DON'T mess with my kid. I thank God for my Grandparents, and wished... expected Rigel to have the same...but that's not the case, unfortunately. Narcissism, addiction and enabling have taken that away from him. His Dad and I can handle it, but we will NOT accept that for our son You can't make a tiger change his stripes. No one will change unless they can admit they have an issue. I will not back down about his safety and well-being. EVER. I REFUSE to let my son grow up with any doubt of my love and belief in him that he can do, be and have anything he wants out of life. And I will FIERCELY protect his innocence and dreams. Alrighty, then! Back to packing cute Bento Boxes and bedtime stories ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿงธ

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Financial abuse is often the first sign of domestic abuse, and in many situations, financial instability is the main reason domestic violence victims decide to remain with their abuser. The aim of the abuser is to isolate the victim and make the victim become financially dependent on them. Tactics used to perpetrate financial abuse include: exploiting the victims' resources, interfering with their job, and controlling shared assets and resources. Seek assistant if you feel your partner is financially abusive. Sakeenah Homes is here to help. . . . . #Instasupport #instawomen #women #domesticabuse #dv #help #domesticviolence #financialabuse #seekhelp #shelter #muslimah #muslimwomen #scarborough #heal #transitionalhome #toronto #mississaga #womenempowerment #empoweredmuslimah #muslimwomen #canadianwomen #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #narcissist #abuseisnotlove #psychopath #toxicrelationship

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What does a healthy relationship look like for you? Here are some healthy boundaries to consider for you and your partner. . . Also, there will be a guest speaker coming on September 17th at 12:30pm to speak about Sexual Assault. We hope to see you there! #FreeCanes #AbuseisNOTlove #HealthyBoundaries #StopTheViolence #WeStandWithSurvivors

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Iโ€™ve been guilty of this. Missing the person he pretended to be and who I thought I loved, when in fact it was all a fake person I was loving the idea of. #escapingthenarcissist #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #abuseisneverok #abuseisnotlove #abuseisreal #control #manipulation #loveyourself #youdeservebetter

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Absolutely! You know if you're able to survive and get away from them "no contact" is imperative! They can no longer sell you on them. Unfortunately they only know how to love themselves. You are no longer their victim! You are a survivor! They know that you know that they know! You got this!! #ownyourlife #loveyourself #nocontact

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Reading a great book at the moment. A book recommended by my therapist. Its a powerful book for those that are affected by childhood PTSD and complex PTSD form military and law enforcement. This passage hit home like a Ben Stoke 6, (cricketing term for my American friends . These vignettes evoke several dysfunctions the origins of which lie in the abusive parenting: Worthlessness, fear of abandonment, damaged self-esteem, needlessness and wantlessness, the grandiosity of โ€œbetter than,โ€ the remorse of โ€œless than,โ€ and the equation of suffocation (Melody, The Intimacy factor.) Check out the link, if you click it, youโ€™re contributing to the Biddle 401K and you have my debt of gratitude forever. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Intimacy-Factor-Overcoming-Obstacles-Respect/dp/0060095806/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=pia+melody&qid=1567955771&s=gateway&sr=8-4 #narcissticabuse #narcisstic #narcisst #narcissticabuserecovery #narcissticsurvivor #narcissticabusesurvivor #narcissticawareness #narcissticrecovery #narcissticfather #narcissticfamilyabuse #narcissticsupply #covert #covertnarcissit #covertnarcissiticabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #emotionalabuseisstillabuse #abusecycle #emotionalabuseawareness #abuseisnotlove #abusers #hiddenabuse #narcissistabuse #damagedchildren #recoveryispossible #recoveryworks #abuserecovery #recoverylife #chooselife #chooselifenotdeath #chooselifeliveitdoit

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Unfortunately itโ€™s not always before thereโ€™s significant damage to relationships and important time lost, but better later than never. #escapingthenarcissist #abuseisnotlove #parentalalienation #parentalalienationawareness #emotionalabuse

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This is one of the ways story/fiction fuels the Abuse is Love lie and upholds sexist Patriarchal fuckery. โ  โ  As readers, it's important that we learn to spot it and see it for the harmful shit it is. As writers, it's important that we expel this shit from our stories. โ  โ  โ  โ  โ  #BodyShaming #SlutShaming #Fiction #Romance #Erotica #Smut #AbuseIsNotLove

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"I didn't think you'd take it this badly." . "You're acting like I'm killing you." . "You're being an over emotional asshole." . "If you really cared to keep me in your life and about how I feel you would learn to control your emotions." . Real things a real person said to someone during a breakup. You aren't crazy thinking it feels like you're withdrawing from no contact with someone who would say things like this to you. . . . . . . . . . . . #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #anxiety #depression #trauma #ptsd #traumabonding #traumabond #narssisist #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #notalone #notcrazy #selfloveclub #selfloveโค๏ธ #selflovefirst #healingtime #healingvibes #healingjourney #abuse #abuserecovery #abuseisnotlove #abuseawareness

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"Why can't we just be two people who dated, and now don't?" . Minimized my experience. Minimized the gravity of our time together. Minimized every feeling I ever had as too much, overwhelming, dramatic, uncalled for. . . Minimized me. Shrunk me down into a person so small and afraid to rock the boat, and even more afraid that I was too weak to ever be worth real love. Made me believe I was broken. . . I am fire, I am the sun, I am loud, and I feel things powerfully; and there's absolutely nothing fucking wrong with that. . . . . . . . . . . . . . #selfloveclub #selfloveโค๏ธ #selflovefirst #healingtime #healingvibes #healingjourney #abuse #abuserecovery #abuseisnotlove #abuseawareness

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LOVE One word , different meanings. Everyone has a different idea about love and a different way in which they express it. There cannot be a universal definition of love . Noone can ever tell you what exactly love is . But today let us learn what is definitely not love. Love does not mean being submissive. It doesn't mean loosing your identity. It does not mean that you keep your partner happy at any cost . It does not mean that you start blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong . It does not mean that you let another person control you . It does not mean that you have to be ok with the way your partner treats you. It does not mean that when someone tells you that you are the reason why this relationship isn't working , you trust that . It does not mean that you tolerate everything in silence. Many teenagers and young adults now a days try to seek approval from their partners by doing whatever their partner likes without giving it a second thought. They start blaming themselves for whatever is going wrong. They feel guilty that things are not working out. They think about what will others say . Many even feel that it is okay to forgive someone you love . Yes it is okay to forgive someone you love but it is not okay to emotionally or physically hurt someone you love . Love has no boundaries they say but Love cannot and should not justify any form of abuse. It is natural for teenagers to get the jitters and fall in love . It is also normal for them to have heartbreaks. We cannot protect them from every heartbreak they have but we can definitely protect them from the abuse. We may not be able to teach them what love is but we can start by teaching them what isn't love . Let's create an environment where they do not fear to share their problems because if they cannot share it with their parents they won't share it with anyone else . mentalhealth #abusiverelationship #loveisblind #awareness #aakar #psychology #psychologist #abuseisnotlove #mentalpeace #passion #teenagers #crush #love #saynotoabuse

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